Submissive's Bill of Rights
1.You have the right to be treated with respect. Not only do you have
this right, you have the right to demand it. Being submissive does not make you
a doormat or less of a person than anyone else. The word "submissive"
describes your nature and in no way diminishes you as a human being. You have
the right to respect yourself as well.
2.You have the right to be proud of what you are. Being a submissive is
nothing that should ever bring you shame or feelings of reproach. Your
submissive nature is a gift and should always be a source of pride and
3.You have the right to feel safe. Being a submissive should not make you
feel afraid, insecure or threatened. Submission is not about living on the edge
or flirting with fear. In any situation you should feel safe or there can never
be true surrender.
4.You have the right to your emotions and feelings. Your emotions and
feelings come from you and they are just as valid as anyone else's. You have a
right to them. Those feelings, whether positive or negative, make you who you
are and suppressing them will only bring unhappiness later.
5.You have the right to express your negative feelings. Being submissive
does not make you an object that no longer has negative thoughts or concerns. Your
concerns are real and you have every right to express them. If something doesn't
feel right, bothers you, makes you feel bad or you just plain don't like
something, say so. Failing to express your negative feelings could give the
mistaken impression that you are pleased or satisfied with something that is not
pleasurable or agreeable.
6.You have the right to say NO. Being submissive does not take away your
right to have dislikes or negative feelings about things. If something is
happening or about to happen that you feel strongly opposed to, it's your duty
to speak up. Remember, failing to communicate the word NO is the same as saying
7.You have the right to expect happiness in life. Being
submissive is not tantamount to being miserable, suffering or a life of despair.
Your submission should bring you joy, peace and fulfillment. If it doesn't, then
something is wrong.
8.You have the right to have input in a relationship. You are an active
partner in any relationship you enter and have every right to contribute to it.
You are submissive, not passive. A relationship that doesn't include your needs,
thoughts, hopes and desires is not one you should be in to begin with. This
applies to friendships, partnerships and D/s relationships.
9.You have the right to belong. Being submissive greatly involves the
feeling of belonging. Many submissives have expressed that it was in discovering
their submissive nature that they felt as through they "belonged" for
the first time in their lives. You belong to the lifestyle and will eventually
belong to the One. It's in that relationship you should find the final
fulfillment of "belonging" at last.
10.You have the right to be loved and to love. Anyone who tells you that
love doesn't fit into a D/s relationship has never experienced the fulfillment
of all it truly can be. Submissives
are by nature loving and needing of love and have every right to expect this to
be a part of their lives. It takes love to bring your submission into full
bloom, so don't settle for less.
11.You have the right to be healthy. Health involves your physical,
mental and emotional well-being. Any relationship, D/s or otherwise, that causes
you to suffer physically, mentally or emotionally, beyond your limits, is abuse.
There is no place for abusive behavior in a D/s relationship and it's up to you
to make sure those lines are not crossed. Being a submissive does not give
anyone the right to harm or injure you in any way. The D/s community will stand
behind you if you should encounter such a situation but you are the one who has
to make them aware before they can help.
12.You have the right to
practice safe sex. Not only is this a right, it's a duty to yourself and others
you may come into contact with at a later date. Sexually transmitted diseases
have reached epidemic proportions and must be a concern to any sexually active
person. Safe Sex is something you have the right to insist upon and protecting
yourself should never be discouraged by anyone who really has your best
interests at heart.