Monthly Munches in a semi-private location for members to come together in a
non-threatening setting to meet and get to know each other. Sometimes we'll have structured discussions, other times
we'll just mingle and chat over good food.
Dress code for munches--Dress the way you'd dress to go out with
your family. No overt fetish-wear, obvious collars, or
leashes. We're not out to non-consensually involve the public in
Iowa Dinner & Discussion
One of DADG's well-respected and longtime members,
the monthly Central Iowa Dinner and Discussion that is held on
the third Saturday of each month. Date, time, location, and topic
are always announced on the DADG e-mail list.
CIDD is a host-led, group discussion about topics pertinent to
the BDSM community and lifestyle.
CIDD dress code is similar to that for munches and/or
bar meets. It is held in a semi-private location with the only
outside people entering the room being establishment wait staff.
Play parties are just as social as munches, you’ll find a lot of
time is spent in conversation and socialization.
Dress code for a play party includes: fetish wear, nothing at all,
your favorite jeans and T-shirt, or anything in-between. There is
no specific dress code for play parties we just ask that attendees
wait to put on fetish wear until inside so as to avoid drawing
unwanted attention to the group/event. There is no sex allowed at
play parties, no penetration with toys, fingers, or other body
parts, oral sex is also prohibited.
This is a chance to watch others play or even play yourself and let
your exhibitionist side come out. It is also an opportunity to
learn; at many play parties there is either a demonstration or a
discussion of a topic relevant to BDSM relationships and specific
types of play.
There is no expectation that you have to play, you can choose to
spend the night socializing and watching others play if you so
desire. If you see a toy or style of play that catches your
interest, please respect the participants' space and wait until
they're out of scene and aftercare to ask. Most people are more
than happy to show off their toys and talk about their favorite
types of play. Some will be more than happy to show you how to do a
specific activity or give you pointers on how to make (or where to
buy) a specific toy.
There are designated dungeon monitors who will be responsible
throughout the night to make sure all play is consensual and safe.
All edge play should be cleared through a DM prior to beginning the
scene. If you see something that concerns you, or appears unsafe,
tell a DM and let them handle it, do not attempt to interfere in a
scene yourself. Remember, things aren't always as they appear and a
particular kink is not wrong just because it upsets you. If you
find a scene that upsets you, remove yourself from the area.
We all know this is a small world and this does sometimes
happen. It may be momentarily embarrassing for both of you but
remember, you're in the same place for the same reason.
This is one of the reasons we ask all of our members to respect
everyone's privacy. Don't mention names when talking about group
functions you've attended, online or in person, unless you've been
given express permission by the person(s) you want to talk about to